How Resonance Repatterning Changed My Life!

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Growing up, the traditional school system was very challenging for me. I was a C-D student. I don’t remember anyone saying something specific, nor was I really punished for my grades, but I know my family and teachers saw that I was struggling. 

My struggles in school were even more evident when my mother held me held back in second grade, even though my teacher (who really liked and mothered me) passed me. I know my mother was trying to help, but it further ingrained my feeling stupid and incapable when it came to school, and I am sure that this whole ordeal implanted these feelings in my subconscious mind.

As it turns out, I am a right-brained person who is very creative, and I am an active person who loves to exercise and engage in outdoor activities. This certainly explains why I could make As and Bs in art and PE!

I also found out later in life that I have a form of dyslexia that makes it hard for me to read and comprehend what I am reading, do math, and otherwise learn the way the other kids seem to.

Is it any wonder that I have struggled with spelling all my life? Thank God for spell check! Those who read my blogs, and FB posts... know that I have a team of editors and copywriters. And, I always have my wonderful partner Dave have the last look before things go out. I am a Virgo and like things to be just right! 

I now know how to manage those things that seemed impossible to me, and I know how to ask and find the right people to support me. I wouldn’t have been able to do this without first spending time to change the way I think about myself and my ability to learn. I owe this to the resonance repatterning system (RR).

When I was first introduced to RR, I began to realize that, not only did I grow up having the experience that I was stupid and incapable, but I was resonating with that experience and belief on every level.

To clear the belief and resonance that “learning is difficult”, and to activate the new belief that “I am capable”, we used a modality.  Modalities are based in sound, color/light, movement, smell, breath and energetic contact. These bring you into a more clear, centered space and give you the power to make a change in your attitude for the better. A positive attitude will reap positive results!

Using the RR system to clear my negative beliefs and feelings was just shy of a miracle for me!

As I worked with RR, I discovered that, under the “I am stupid and feel incapable” rubbish, other subconscious negative thoughts were supporting this conscious belief. These beliefs accumulated and piled on the earlier experience of being held back in second grade.

Once I cleared the resonance with my belief and feeling tone, it seem that learning no longer felt intimidating. I felt motivated and excited to learn new things.

In Resonance Repatterning, resonance addresses what is true to you, whether it’s positive or negative. It doesn’t matter what the reality is outside of you; instead, your own internal stories, beliefs and emotions affect how you experience and view the world. Additionally, your experience, thoughts and beliefs attract more of the same. As a result, what you resonate with is what you attract, and affects how you experience it.

While we can’t change the outside world, other people, or situations, we can identify and change how that resonates within you. This leads to changes in your thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Using RR to change what you are resonating with will lead to a higher vibration of energy, which we call coherent or positive energy. When you are coherent you are more equipped to make the changes you’re looking for.

If you are reading this and thinking, “Wow! Me too!”, then maybe it is time for you to shift the way you think about yourself and change the way you talk to your BFF--yourself.  Yes, one of the tools we will use during the “Be Your Own BFF” retreat is the Resonance Repatterning system.

Resonance Repatterning will:

  • Shift you out of a negative mindset into a more positive vibrational resonance with what you want to experience or manifest in your life.

  • Help you change your mindset more efficiently and effectively with permanent lasting results that you will take home with you.

Only open to 20 women so don't wait, register HERE.

If you’re interested but have questions, reservations or any concerns about the retreat, email me at lauren@life-spotter.com and we can set up a 15-20 minute call to help you move through what is holding you back from “Becoming Your Own BFF.

Here's to transformation and manifestation,

Lauren

 

How I Became My Own BFF!

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Because I have always been a social person, I make friends easily. And, each friendship I have is special in its own unique way.  My slogan for years was“I love you man! You are my best friend!” Even now, when I run into an old friend who I haven’t seen in awhile, they will call out, “I love you man! You are my best friend!”  Hearing this never fails to bring a smile to my face and joy to my heart that these people remember me this way.

Even though I was surrounded by friends throughout my life, I didn’t learn until later in life that the best relationship I could have was the relationship with myself. As the saying goes, “You can only love others as much as you love yourself.” It took a failed marriage, failed finances, and loads of stress to start my journey to becoming my own BFF.  From my own life experiences grew the workshop, “How to Be Your Own BFF.” I want to help others who find themselves in draining relationships and unfulfilling careers, unable to say “no,” or unable to ask for what they want or need (and feel guilty if they do!) and who don’t trust themselves.   I want to help them take the first steps toward becoming their own BFF.  I know they needed to learn the same things I did!

Here's How I Became My Own BFF.

Let me set the scene for you. 7 years ago, I found myself in a marriage that had fallen apart. I had filed bankruptcy, so my financial life was in shambles. My coaching practice was not flourishing. I wasn’t taking very good care of myself.  I was stressed and not eating. I indulged or drowned myself in wine more often than not. Let’s just say, I was NOT a very happy camper.

The bottom line was, I didn’t like myself. Because I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror I was hard on myself, saying things like:

“What is wrong with me?”

“Why can’t I get it together?”

“Why can’t I leave this marriage that I know is draining me?”

“I will never find anyone else to love me; I will always be alone.”

“I am such a big dummy for listening to my ex about holding onto a business I no longer had an interest in.”

This last one was the favorite one since I had moved on to coaching, which was the only thing that brought me any joy at that time. 

Gosh! I realized that I would never say those things to my BFF if they were experiencing the same life events that I was! So, why would I say them to myself? We tend to talk to ourselves like that because we think somehow it will motivate us to make a change.  But that does not work, my friend. If it did, I would have made the change much sooner!

On top of all the negative self-talk, when I claimed bankruptcy, regret and guilt joined the party.  I regretted that I did not listen to myself about closing my business and selling what I could. Instead of trusting my own gut, I listened to what my ex thought was best for “us.”

Here’s the bottom line: I was a people pleaser, one who could not say no and would do things for others, even when it was detrimental to me. The thought of asking for what I wanted or needed, in a relationship or in life, wasn’t even in the realm of possibilities.  I was left with little or no confidence. I had no sense of self-esteem or security, and worse, I was left with the core limiting belief that I am not capable!

Because I was a life coach myself, I was lucky to have a lot of resources to choose from, and I knew if I were going to really start thriving in my life, I had to do something.  The first step for me was taking the time to get to know myself; I mean really get to know who I am, the good, the bad and the ugly.

After I learned who I was, I could then begin practicing self-compassion and upgrade my inner dialogue, using conscious language.  Here I am now, 7 years later, in a different space and able to share the tools to personal growth that I have learned and practice.

If I can do it, so can you! The “Be Your Own BFF” retreat takes my years of self-discovery and healing, boiled down and distilled so that you can fast-track your own path to recovery and healing in a single weekend.  I want to share what I learned (the hard way) and help you to take a quantum leap into a far higher version of yourself than you could have ever imagined possible. I want to help you to be gentle and loving on yourself like you would your own BFF.

Check out the retreat HERE.

If you’re interested but have questions, reservations, or any concerns about the retreat, hit reply and we can set up a 15-20 minute call to help you move through what is holding you back from “Becoming Your Own BFF.”

Here’s to loving yourself by investing in yourself,

Lauren

Hurray!!! Registration open for Santa Fe-Be Your Own BFF retreat.

  Yay!  The details for the “Be Your Own BFF” retreat in Santa Fe, at the Inn and Spa at Loretto are FINALLY nailed down!  And the best news of all is registration is now OPEN!     If you are overworked, overwhelmed, lack energy and time, and you override your feelings and inner-knowing...this retreat is custom made for you!        Space is limited at the “Be Your Own BFF” retreat to a small, intimate, group of 20 participants.  So there’s not much time to wait.    The     first 5 to register will receive a nice, early bird bonus: Two, free, 90-minute coaching sessions with me, a   $290 value  .   You can use these, one-on-one, coaching sessions before or after the retreat, for up to 4 months after the event.     Everyone who registers prior to August 19th, will receive  a  early bird bonus:   One, free, 90-minute coaching sessions with me, a   $145 value  .       You can use these coaching sessions yourself at any time, up to 4 months after the event.  Or you can gift one of your bonus sessions to a pal, partner, or family member.     This offer is only good until   August 19th, Sunday by midnight!   So don’t wait. Register    HERE   .      If you’re interested but have questions, reservations or any concerns about the retreat, email me at lauren@life-spotter.com and we can set up a 15-20 minute call to help you move through what is holding you back from “Becoming Your Own BFF.”    Here’s to becoming your own BFF,    Lauren

Yay!  The details for the “Be Your Own BFF” retreat in Santa Fe, at the Inn and Spa at Loretto are FINALLY nailed down!  And the best news of all is registration is now OPEN!

If you are overworked, overwhelmed, lack energy and time, and you override your feelings and inner-knowing...this retreat is custom made for you!  

Space is limited at the “Be Your Own BFF” retreat to a small, intimate, group of 20 participants.  So there’s not much time to wait.

The first 5 to register will receive a nice, early bird bonus: Two, free, 90-minute coaching sessions with me, a $290 value. You can use these, one-on-one, coaching sessions before or after the retreat, for up to 4 months after the event.

Everyone who registers prior to August 19th, will receive a early bird bonus: One, free, 90-minute coaching sessions with me, a $145 value.

You can use these coaching sessions yourself at any time, up to 4 months after the event.  Or you can gift one of your bonus sessions to a pal, partner, or family member.

This offer is only good until August 19th, Sunday by midnight! So don’t wait. Register HERE

If you’re interested but have questions, reservations or any concerns about the retreat, email me at lauren@life-spotter.com and we can set up a 15-20 minute call to help you move through what is holding you back from “Becoming Your Own BFF.”

Here’s to becoming your own BFF,

Lauren

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It’s February… a time to celebrate love, whether it’s a romantic partner, your bestie or your kids. Sadly, this time of year can also end romantic partnerships.

I once experienced a breakup on Valentine’s night... seems like a million years ago. I’ve been over it for a long time, but I sure wished I had some support back then...you can imagine how devastated I was.

I was in my late 20’s and had been with my boyfriend for 7 years. After our Valentine’s dinner I felt an overwhelming sadness fill my heart.  As we pulled into my driveway, I began to cry and he asked what was wrong.

I got up my nerve and said, “I thought by now you would’ve asked me to marry you.” His answer... “Oh Lauren, I really never planned on marrying you.”

Ugh... worst night ever!!!!!!!!

I’ve promised to launch my online coaching programs, and in the next few weeks that’s what we’ll be doing. And the first one is “Breakup to Breakthrough Bootcamp!”

It’s a 30 day support program for anyone going through a breakup. I so wished I had something like this when I went through my breakups and a divorce.

Now I can help you move through the process in a more positive way, while building your confidence and loving yourself.

Be on the lookout…“Breakup to Breakthrough” support is right around the corner!

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I recently read in a post that “anger is a poisonous way to expend your energy and a sure way to show your level of emotional intelligence and self importance to the world.”

I agree with this fully, but often, anger can also be a wake up call for change.

If you are feeling angry about a situation, relationship, job/career issue, or family dynamic, you may want to go within, to that highest version of yourself and ask, “what needs to change to untangle me from this anger?”

Listen, and honor the answer, even if you can't change anything right away… at least you’re acknowledging the anger.  

It's best to not project your anger onto someone, but don't try to spiritually bypass it by pretending everything is okay when it's not!

Here’s a good tip… if you're triggered and feeling angry, probably so is the other person. BUT I would NOT point out that they are… not unless you wanna see what happens when you throw gasoline on a fire… you better run if you do that!

I coach my clients to practice being aware when they’re triggered. You know what that feels like… your heart rate goes up, you stop breathing or maybe you breathe really shallow… you may even feel like someone kicked you in the stomach.  

The Amygdala, the “fight or flight” function of the brain, causes your blood to leave your brain and go to your hands and feet to either fight or run for survival!

You can’t think clearly... and the words out of your mouth can be lethal.  Later on, you may not even remember what you said when you were so angry.

So before you bypass, suppress, resist or project your anger onto someone, calmly let the other person know you are triggered.

Explain that you need to remove yourself to get to the source of your anger, and reassure them you’ll discuss the issue when you are calm and thinking clearly.

It takes at least 30 minutes for the blood to flow back into the brain and for the cortisol to move through the bloodstream, so take a chill pill and wait this out!

This is a really valuable tool…. I use it in all my interactions, and my partner and I ALWAYS use this tool.  

We've been together a long time, and I have no regrets in any disagreement or difference of opinion that we’ve ever had… BECAUSE we don't discuss them when we're in a triggered state!  

Can't say it was the case in my past relationships, but I’ve learned! Being triggered is SO disruptive, and allowing anger to run your relationships may ruin them, and you find yourself playing the shame and blame game.

So start practicing now. It takes at least 21 days to put a new behavior/pattern in place of the old behavior/pattern.

You have nothing to lose and something new to gain! 

Much Love,

Lauren

P.S. As always if you have any questions feel free to email me at lauren@life-spotter.com.

Get Your 90 Minute Session for $99! (a $145 value)

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Hey there, ready to light the fireworks and kick off the new year with a kick butt session?

I'm offering a 90 minute session for $99 (a $145 value) and you have 3 months to use it from the time of purchase.

Go HERE to purchase today!  Don't wait... the deadline to buy is January 31st.

Let’s set your intentions for the new year or get rid of baggage from last year. Whaddaya say?

I say hell yeah... I’ve got a good feeling about 2018!

Lauren and Zoe (she is still with us in spirit for sure!)

Buy one For You & Yours!

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Yep, tis the season to be jolly, so why not do something nice for yourself and/or someone else? Let’s face it...we all did our best being good little peeps this year, right?

I say you and yours totally deserve this!

As my gift to you, I'm offering a 90 minute session for $100 (a $145 value.)  

It’s the perfect gift to get a jump-start into a new year.

Go HERE to purchase today! (The purchaser will receive the gift certificate and then can email it to the gift receiver or print it for themselves.)

You will be that person people remember for giving the best gift ever!

One session per person please, but you can buy one for yourself and one for every person in your tribe! They’ll be good for 3 months from purchase.

Merry Christmas, Feliz Navidad, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, Mele Kalikimaka, Joyeux Noël…. in all the languages, I hope it’s the best holiday ever!

Much love,

Lauren and Zoe (she is still with us in spirit for sure!)

Zoe Crossing the Rainbow Bridge

  We helped our sweet 4 legged fur baby crossed the rainbow bridge on November 22nd, 2017. She was only 12 years old but BOY... did we pack in a lot of living in those 12 years!       She was diagnosed with kidney failure a little over a year ago which is common in aging dogs. Then in April this year, I was told she had chronic renal failure and we would have to give subcutaneous fluids every day to keep her alive.       You can read more about this on my blog...    My 12 Year Old Pupster -Zoe’s Scary Story!        We opted out of western treatment and took on a holistic approach, giving her the quality of life she deserved. We change Zoe to a raw dog food diet and put her on homeopathics. Read more about what happened next…    Zoe Pup’s Update!        This gave us 7 more wonderful months together. She was vibrant, spunky as always and happy to be with people...she was a very social dog for sure.       We had a wonderful, VERY active social life together as well as a career working in the healing arts. She was an amazing therapy dog to me, my clients and pretty much everyone she met. She had so much love for people... I think because she thought she was a person!       I noticed she had begun to slow way down, so I made an appointment to see Dr. Lassin at PAZ vet in south Austin the Friday before Thanksgiving at 6:30pm.  What vet sees you on a Friday night at 6:30?  You know it’s a cool place when they offer you water, espresso or a Lone Star. REALLY?!       What I love about this place is that they set up a warm environment.   You don’t feel like you’re in a vet clinic and it is more relaxing.  As LJ our vet tech said when I commented how wonderful it was to be there, “if the parent is relaxed the pet is relaxed!”       They administered fluids and ran tests that night. Saturday morning the doc called and wanted us back in at noon for more fluids, to talk test results and options.        We did not speak it out loud... but Dave and I both knew Zoe was on her last legs, and we wanted to make the most of what time we had left with her!  So we rode our bikes with Zoe in my basket to the farmers market, then to the vet clinic. Then we took her on a little bike tour around town.   We took her over to the Larry Monroe bridge and took pictures.  For more info    Click Here    .        We stopped and had lunch at a little outdoor cafe on the east side and as always she got lots of attention and loving petting.  We had a 12 mile bike ride with her and it was the best day ever!       Sunday and Monday were really hard for us and my heart was swollen with grief.  By Tuesday she pretty much stopped eating. We could tell her tummy was upset but she would not take the meds that could have settled it, or anything else for that matter. It was her way of  saying… ”Mom, I am ready.”  In all honesty, I was not... but we did what we had to do!        We had Dr. Kimberly from Compassionate Vet come to our house and helped us cross her over the rainbow bridge. It was the most peaceful and graceful transition I had been through. I’ve had two other 4 legged furry children that we assisted through their transition, but it was at a traditional vet and not as lovely as this was.  She is buried next to Bela the cat and joined all the other soul angels in heaven!        Now that she is a doggie angel...she will still be working with me and my clients, comforting us from afar!         We love you more... Zoe!  R.I.P.

We helped our sweet 4 legged fur baby crossed the rainbow bridge on November 22nd, 2017. She was only 12 years old but BOY... did we pack in a lot of living in those 12 years!

 

She was diagnosed with kidney failure a little over a year ago which is common in aging dogs. Then in April this year, I was told she had chronic renal failure and we would have to give subcutaneous fluids every day to keep her alive.

 

You can read more about this on my blog... My 12 Year Old Pupster -Zoe’s Scary Story!

 

We opted out of western treatment and took on a holistic approach, giving her the quality of life she deserved. We change Zoe to a raw dog food diet and put her on homeopathics. Read more about what happened next… Zoe Pup’s Update!

 

This gave us 7 more wonderful months together. She was vibrant, spunky as always and happy to be with people...she was a very social dog for sure.

 

We had a wonderful, VERY active social life together as well as a career working in the healing arts. She was an amazing therapy dog to me, my clients and pretty much everyone she met. She had so much love for people... I think because she thought she was a person!

 

I noticed she had begun to slow way down, so I made an appointment to see Dr. Lassin at PAZ vet in south Austin the Friday before Thanksgiving at 6:30pm.  What vet sees you on a Friday night at 6:30?  You know it’s a cool place when they offer you water, espresso or a Lone Star. REALLY?!

 

What I love about this place is that they set up a warm environment.   You don’t feel like you’re in a vet clinic and it is more relaxing.  As LJ our vet tech said when I commented how wonderful it was to be there, “if the parent is relaxed the pet is relaxed!”

 

They administered fluids and ran tests that night. Saturday morning the doc called and wanted us back in at noon for more fluids, to talk test results and options.

 

We did not speak it out loud... but Dave and I both knew Zoe was on her last legs, and we wanted to make the most of what time we had left with her!  So we rode our bikes with Zoe in my basket to the farmers market, then to the vet clinic. Then we took her on a little bike tour around town.   We took her over to the Larry Monroe bridge and took pictures.  For more info Click Here.

 

We stopped and had lunch at a little outdoor cafe on the east side and as always she got lots of attention and loving petting.  We had a 12 mile bike ride with her and it was the best day ever!

 

Sunday and Monday were really hard for us and my heart was swollen with grief.  By Tuesday she pretty much stopped eating. We could tell her tummy was upset but she would not take the meds that could have settled it, or anything else for that matter. It was her way of  saying… ”Mom, I am ready.”  In all honesty, I was not... but we did what we had to do!

 

We had Dr. Kimberly from Compassionate Vet come to our house and helped us cross her over the rainbow bridge. It was the most peaceful and graceful transition I had been through. I’ve had two other 4 legged furry children that we assisted through their transition, but it was at a traditional vet and not as lovely as this was.  She is buried next to Bela the cat and joined all the other soul angels in heaven!

 

Now that she is a doggie angel...she will still be working with me and my clients, comforting us from afar!  

 

We love you more... Zoe!  R.I.P.